- Top and bottom in sex and BDSM
The terms top, bottom and switch are used by many people, including
heterosexualand LGBTpeople, BDSMpractitioners, and others in regards to sexand BDSM activities. For example, the act of pegging involves a female "top" and a male "bottom". Interpretation of these terms may vary across subcultures, or even between different individuals within the same subculture.
These terms may be used simply to describe roles for the duration of a sexual act or BDSM scene, or may be used more broadly as a psychological, social, and sexual identity, as well as indicating one's usual preference.
The definitions below provide several common interpretations.
"Top" is a relatively broad term, which can include any of the following:
* a partner who adopts the penetrative role in a sexual act
* a partner who adopts the dominant role in a sexual act
The top need not be physically on top of the other partner, though this is often the case.
"Top" can also be used as a transitive or intransitive verb meaning to sexually penetrate (someone).
In BDSM, "top" means:
* a dominant partner in sexual play (such as
flogging, binding, being master, and humiliating)
* a partner who applies stimulation to another, and who may or may not be dominant
** Topping from the bottom is a related BDSM term, meaning a person simultaneously adopts the role of bottom and dom.
"Bottom" is a relatively broad term, which can include any of the following:
* a partner who adopts the receptive role in a sexual act (i.e. the partner who is penetrated)
* a person who adopts the submissive role in a sexual act
"Bottom" can also be used as an intransitive verb meaning to be sexually penetrated by: "to bottom for someone."
In BDSM, "bottom" means:
* a submissive partner in sexual play (such as in being flogged, tied, humiliated, or made to serve)
* a partner who enjoys submission on a temporary, limited basis
* a partner who receives stimulation from another
A bottom in BDSM does not have to be the receptive partner; for example, a female dominant may command her submissive to penetrate her.
"Switch" or "versatile"
* A person who enjoys both topping and bottoming, or being dominant and submissive, and may alternate between the two. (Verb form: "switching", "Flip Flop")
Switches are very common; partners may switch roles based on mood, desire, or to allow each partner to experience their preferred activity. Commonly, both in sex and BDSM, a switch may be someone who is in a relationship with someone who shares the same primary preference to top or bottom as they; so switching provides each partner with an opportunity to realize their own needs.
It is also common for people to switch with different partners, such as when a person acts exclusively as a top with one partner and exclusively as a bottom with another.
The act of "switching" may also refer to a spontanaeous reversal of roles, initiated by the bottom, who then takes control.
A person who engages in
self-bondagecan be viewed as taking both roles simultaneously.
Active and passive
These are not necessarily the same as "top" and "bottom" — a bottom is not necessarily inactive, or less active than the top. For example, a top may direct a bottom to perform the majority of actions in a given encounter (making the bottom the active).
In some languages, like Spanish, Hebrew, Hungarian, British English, Portuguese and Italian, it is still common to use the term "active" and "passive" to refer to "top" and "bottom" respectively; this is however a rare usage in modern U.S. English.
lang and related terms
Common slang terms in some gay communities include: pitcher (top), catcher (bottom), and switch-hitter or flip (versatile). In some languages "passive" and "active" are also used, rather than "bottom" or "top". Some dislike the term "bottom" as they feel it has negative connotations, and prefer not to use that term or the corresponding "top".
Power top refers to a "top" in a
sexualrelationship. The "power" in the term refers to the great stamina or special topping skills. Contrast with power bottom.
The term total top is used to describe one who exclusively tops.
Japanese bondageand sexually themed animeand manga, especially shounen-aiand yaoi, a top is referred to as 攻め ( seme) (lit. attack), a term from kabukiand martial arts. A bottom is referred to as 受け (uke) (lit. defense / agreement / acceptance), also a term from martial arts.
In ancient Roman civilization,
pathicis used to describe a bottom, and has weak / feminine connotations.
Dominant and submissive
These are more narrowly defined terms than "top" and "bottom" — a top is not necessarily in a dominant/submissive relationship with a bottom. Dominance and submission are one specific form of topping and bottoming, but there are other forms of topping and bottoming that do not involve dominance and submission.
A dominant (or "dom") is one who enjoys performing any of a variety of
BDSMpractices upon a submissive; or one who holds a dominant position within a relationship based upon dominance and submission (D/s). This enjoyment can spring from a simple desire for dominance or an enjoyment of the interplay of wills involved in such a scenario. A male dominant is often called a dom; a female, a domme or dominatrix.
The main difference between a dominant and a top is that the dominant ostensibly does not follow instructions, although they are limited by what the submissive is willing to do.
A top filling the "dominant role" is not necessarily "a" dominant, and vice versa, and a bottom is not necessarily submissive. At one end of the continuum is a submissive who enjoys taking orders from a dominant but does not receive any physical stimulation. At the other is a bottom who enjoys the intense physical and psychological stimulation but does not submit to the person delivering them.
The top may sometimes even be the partner who is "following" instructions, i.e., they top when, and in the manner, requested by the bottom. A person who applies sensation or control to a bottom, but does so to the bottom's explicit instruction is a "
Contrast this with the pure dominant, who might give orders to a submissive, or otherwise employ physical or psychological techniques of control, but might instruct the submissive to perform the act on them.
A submissive (or "sub") is one who enjoys having any of a variety of
BDSMpractices performed upon them by a dominant; or one who holds a submissive position within a relationship based upon dominance and submission (D/s). This enjoyment can spring from a simple desire for submission or an enjoyment of the interplay of wills involved in such a scenario.
The main difference between a submissive and a bottom is that the submissive ostensibly does not give instructions, although they do set limits on what the dominant can do.
It should be noted that for bottoms who are not submissive, the bottom is most often the partner who is "giving" instructions—the top typically tops when, and in the manner, requested by the bottom. Failure to choose a trustworthy top can be very dangerous (see
safeword), and even a trustworthy but overzealous top can inflict severe pain or injury by failing to pay attention to the bottom.
In many BDSM communities, there is a distinction between a submissive and a slave. In this context, a slave's goal is surrender and obedience. In contrast, a submissive tends to expect some gratification in return for his or her submission.
Many distinguish top/bottom from dominant/submissive by seeing top/bottom as an expression of physical power, while dominant/submissive is an expression of psychological power. In many cases, the dominant/submissive relationship involves the dominant party psychologically tearing down and denigrating the submissive (consensually, meeting the submissive's expressed needs and respecting hard limits). In contrast, the top/bottom relationship is more commonly marked by mutual respect and support
adist and masochist
These terms, while reflecting a "do" vs. "done to" distinction similar to top and bottom, are more narrowly defined as the giving and receiving of pain perceived as such. In both sex and BDSM activity, the boundary between what very painful and what feels absolutely wonderful can be very hard to find. The sadist and masochist deliberately stay on the clearly hurts side of that boundary, whereas the top and bottom seek the other side.
Beginning in the 1970s, in some American contexts, "tops" would identify themselves by wearing a set of keys on the left side of the belt or a color-coded handkerchief in their left rear pockets; "bottoms" would wear the identifier on the right side. In this system the top did not always penetrate the bottom nor was he always the "active" partner, rather the "top" role would be different from act to act. This practice, called "flagging", began in the gay male subculture.
While popular media portrays a larger number of submissive males than dominant males, studies have disputed this.Fact|date=September 2008 Accordingly, many more women identify themselves as submissive.Fact|date=September 2008 Businesses catering to BDSM culture show there is a strong and growing market for submissives and dominants of all genders and orientations and a diversity in BDSM communities, both recreational and professional. Professional dominants provide stimulatory services (which may or may not include sex) for submissives.
There is anecdotal indications that preference in D/s activities follows a 'compensatory' pattern, with people who have power and responsibility in real life often preferring a submissive role; no research data to either confirm or reject this hypothesis has been widely distributed.
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