Darby and Joan
Darby and Joan is a proverbial phrase for a married couple content to live a quiet shared life.
The Nuttall Encyclopædia defined the phrase as "a married couple celebrated for their mutual attachment", the Random House Dictionary as "a happily married couple who lead a placid, uneventful life." The Reader's Encyclopedia mentions the "loving, old-fashioned and virtuous" qualities of Darby and Joan. The term is also used disparagingly to describe younger people who are perceived to favour spending their evenings in or to follow pursuits seen as middle-aged. In England, clubs for senior citizens are often called Darby and Joan Clubs, a usage thought to originate from a club in Streatham founded in 1942.
Appearances as a poetic conceit
John Darby and his wife Joan were first mentioned in print in a poem published in The Gentleman's Magazine by Henry Sampson Woodfall in 1735, original title The Joys of Love never forgot. A Song. Woodfall had been apprentice to Darby, a printer in Bartholomew Close in the Little Britain area of London, who died in 1730. The poem was issued again as a broadside in 1748. One stanza of this poem reads:
- Old Darby, with Joan by his side
- You've often regarded with wonder.
- He's dropsical, she is sore-eyed
- Yet they're ever uneasy asunder.
The apparent popularity of this poem led to another titled "Darby and Joan" by St. John Honeywood (1763–1798). It reads, in part:
- When Darby saw the setting sun,
- He swung his scythe and home he run,
- Sat down, drank off his quart and said,
- "My work is done, I'll go to bed."
- Master William Harness and I have recommenced a most fiery correspondence; I like him as Euripdes liked Agatho, or Darby admired Joan, as much for the past as the present.
- Hand in hand when our life was May
- Hand in hand when our hair is grey
- Shadow and sun for every one,
- As the years roll on;
- Hand in hand when the long night tide
- Gently covers us side by side–
- Ah! lad, though we know not when,
- Love will be with us forever then:
- Always the same, Darby my own,
- Always the same to your old wife Joan.
- Frost has bound our flowing river,
- Snow has whitened all our island brake,
- And beside the winter fagot
- Joan and Darby doze and dream and wake.
- Still, in the river of dreams
- Swims the boat of love –
- Hark! chimes the falling oar!
- And again in winter evens
- When on firelight dreaming fancy feeds,
- In those ears of aged lovers
- Love's own river warbles in the reeds.
- Love still the past, O my love!
- We have lived of yore,
- O, we have loved of yore.
Appearances in popular music
- We'll sit and look at the same old view,
- Just we two.
- Darby and Joan who used to be Jack and Jill,
- The folks who like to be called,
- What they have always been called,
- "The folks who live on the hill".
Appearances in prose
- You have not enough money to keep a cat decently after you have your man his wages, and your landlady her bill. Do you think I'm going to live in a lodging, and turn the mutton at a string whilst your honour nurses the baby? Fiddlestick, and why did you not get this nonsense knocked out of your head when you were in the wars? You are come back more dismal and dreary than ever. You and mamma are fit for each other. You might be Darby and Joan, and play cribbage to the end of your lives.
- He was disposed to think that the whirlwind had hitherto been too predominant, and had said so very plainly with a good deal of marital authority. This autumn and winter were to be devoted to the cultivation of proper relations between him and his wife. "Does that mean Darby and Joan?" his wife had asked him, when the proposition was made to her.
and there are also several references in Trollope's subsequent The Prime Minister (1876), when Lady Glencora, Duchess of Omnium, bridles at her husband's requests that she put an end to the string of lavish parties she has been throwing to celebrate his selection as the country's leader. She dreads his demand that they adopt what she dismissively describes as a "Darby & Joan" existence.
Other references include Ruth Rendell's The Best Man to Die (1981):
- My father called my mother darling once or twice and there was a kind of Darby and Joan air about them;
- Their very silence might have been the mark of something grave – their silence eked out for her by his giving her his arm and their then crawling up their steps quite mildly and unitedly together, like some old Darby and Joan who have had a disappointment.
- ^ s:The Nuttall Encyclopædia/D
- ^ http://www.britishpathe.com/record.php?id=82851
- ^ "Woodfall, Henry Sampson". Dictionary of National Biography. London: Smith, Elder & Co. 1885–1900.
- ^ http://www.bartleby.com/248/19.html
- ^ Leslie A. Marchand, ed. Famous in my time: Byron's letters and Journals, Vol. 2, 1810–1812, (1973).
- ^ http://www.bartleby.com/246/922.html
- ^ http://theotherpages.org/poems/rls05.html
- ^ Music and words (PDF)
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Darby and Joan — [ˌda:bi ən ˈdʒəun US ˌda:rbi ən ˈdʒoun] n BrE [Date: 1700 1800; Origin: The names of a happy long married couple in an 18th century poem] like Darby and Joan used humorously when talking about an old husband and wife who live very happily… … Dictionary of contemporary English
Darby and Joan — 1735, characteristic name of an old, happily married couple … Etymology dictionary
Darby and Joan — ► NOUN Brit. ▪ a devoted old married couple. ORIGIN from a poem (1735) in the Gentleman s Magazine … English terms dictionary
Darby and Joan — [där′bē ənd jō an′, jōn′] n. [< an 18th c. song] an old married couple much devoted to each other … English World dictionary
darby and joan — n. a devoted old married couple. Phrases and idioms: Darby and Joan club Brit. a club for people over 60. Etymology: 18th c.: perh. f. a poem of 1735 in the Gentleman s Magazine * * * |därbēənˈjō(ə)n, jōˈan noun Usage: usually capitalized D&J… … Useful english dictionary
Darby and Joan — noun be like Darby and Joan BrE humorous used when talking about an old husband and wife who live very happily together … Longman dictionary of contemporary English
Darby and Joan — 1. an elderly married couple living together They were the characters in Woodfall s 18thcentury ballad, who grew old together. Rarely seen as a verb: Darby and Joaning it into the sunset. (Bogarde, 1981) 2. obsolete British a pair … How not to say what you mean: A dictionary of euphemisms
Darby and Joan — DarÂ·by and Joan || dÉ‘ËbÉª É™n(d) dÊ’É™ÊŠn n. (British) happily married and devoted elderly couple … English contemporary dictionary
Darby and Joan — noun Etymology: probably from Darby & Joan, couple in an 18th century song Date: 1760 a happily married usually elderly couple … New Collegiate Dictionary
Darby and Joan — a happily married elderly couple who lead a placid, uneventful life. [named after a couple mentioned in an 18th century song] * * * … Universalium